Eggshells and Landmines

4 Jan

I posted this in a Fellowship page on Facebook. This is fellowship and part of fellowship is accountability. I thought long about sharing this here, but it is truth and it is part of my journey. The part about dating.

It is a difficult journey for someone that was married for a very long time.
(well, probably for all of us that are single). I think not trusting myself to remain true to biblical teaching is one problem I have to face.. though I thought I was strong enough. My belief that God has great purpose for calling us to only be intimate within marriage is founded on scripture. I firmly believe that we are not to bend scripture to meet our weaknesses but be touched by scripture and give our weakness up.

Now..I was created to be this way, as surely as my loving nature and my laughter.. so this isn’t about rules or about being rejected by God.. It isn’t about being bad or good. He isn’t going to throw me out of Heaven.. It is about our journey. And our journey is so difficult to remain faithful and in closeness with Him. By being intimate with someone too soon or to whom I am not married to, I would begin feeling bad about that.. I separate myself from Him and He can’t protect me. That is how I see this.

I find the temptation is great. I went to The Word and of course, to my beloved poetic Message version…to find my reassurance and I wanted to share this with you. It is one thing to talk the talk, it is hard as all get out to walk The Word…. but God created that with our hearts and our best interest in mind. Even though I have begun dating a Christian, I was told that this was too much of a burden. Probably very scary too.. it means commitment. That is a lot to take in from the get go. But.. that is the way it is and I am okay with this.

I learned so much, about me, but mostly about how much God loves me so very much in this moment…

And when we learn and share, we let God pour healing and strength into our weakness. ( so hard to push post)

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5(MSG)
You’re God-Taught
4 1-3 One final word, friends. We ask you—urge is more like it—that you keep on doing what we told you to do to please God, not in a dogged religious plod, but in a living, spirited dance. You know the guidelines we laid out for you from the Master Jesus. God wants you to live a pure life.
Keep yourselves from sexual promiscuity.
4-5 Learn to appreciate and give dignity to your body, not abusing it, as is so common among those who know nothing of God.

1 Corinthians 6:18(MSG)

16-20 There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.

2 Timothy 2:22(MSG)

22-26 Run away from infantile indulgence. Run after mature righteousness—faith, love, peace—joining those who are in honest and serious prayer before God. Refuse to get involved in inane discussions; they always end up in fights. God’s servant must not be argumentative, but a gentle listener and a teacher who keeps cool, working firmly but patiently with those who refuse to obey. You never know how or when God might sober them up with a change of heart and a turning to the truth, enabling them to escape the Devil’s trap, where they are caught and held captive, forced to run his errands.

2 Timothy 2:22(NIV)

22 Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Proverbs 31:30(AMP)

30 Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!

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