9 Feb

Matthew 6:14-15
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

In our friendships, our close relationships, when we get hurt, our first reaction is to either lash out or withdraw and lick our wounds. How many times should we be hurt by our friends, our loved ones, before we figure out we are being fools?

In Matthew 18:21-22 we hear a parable about forgiveness. “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

When our sisters and brothers sin against us, cause us pain, we are instructed to forgive with God’s kind of grace. Constant and without reserve. Agape Love. Imagine a marriage with this type of love. With this forbearance and grace? (note: This does not apply to anyone that is toxic or abusive. For those we can forgive and love from afar. We do not need to be unsafe in order to follow God’s teachings. This is about friendship and blessed relationships.)

This forgiveness and grace, goes so much against the grain of our societal teachings, “Hurt me once? Shame on you, Hurt me twice? Shame on me!”

We are not perfect, and in my humble opinion, the only reason we don’t forgive is because of our own ego’s need to not be wrong or less than. To forgive means we understand that we are acceptable and lovable and worthy, even in our imperfection. It accepts that other’s are like us, imperfect.

When we hold a grudge or refuse to forgive, we are showing our need to hang on to our validation that we are the victim. We are wronged. For some it can become the costume they put on to hide their fears. But Jesus died for you, He suffered terrible abuse and beatings to save you from your weakness and brokenness. You are forgiven. When you know Jesus and understand this amazing sacrifice, that you are forgiven by the Grace of His sacrifice. That you are shown true mercy and will never pay with rejection for your sin? How can you not forgive someone for the things they do to you?

We are called to love and we are given great blessings in our friendships. Lasting friendships overlook a multitude of sins and forgive over and over. Agape Love = lasting relationships. I am so grateful for God’s forbearance with me. I must exhaust Him at times; but no matter what I do or don’t do, there He is, so near and so perfect.

For Valentine’s Day start with real love, of you and your people; Agape Love. Give to all what you want in return and know, most of us never mean to hurt one another. None of us are capable of being perfect. Know this about you and about them, then just…


1 John 1:9
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

Isaiah 43:25-26
“I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more. Review the past for me, let us argue the matter together; state the case for your innocence.

Acts 3:19
Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord,

Isaiah 1:18
“Come now, let us reason together,” says the LORD. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.

2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!

Ephesians 1:7
In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace

Hebrews 10:17
Then he adds: “Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more.”

Daniel 9:9
The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him;

Colossians 1:13-14
For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

Psalm 103:12
as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

Numbers 14:19-21
In accordance with your great love, forgive the sin of these people, just as you have pardoned them from the time they left Egypt until now.” The LORD replied, “I have forgiven them, as you asked. Nevertheless, as surely as I live and as surely as the glory of the LORD fills the whole earth,

Micah 7:18-19
Who is a God like you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay angry forever but delight to show mercy. You will again have compassion on us; you will tread our sins underfoot and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea.

Matthew 6:9-15
“This, then, is how you should pray: ” ‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. ‘ For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Mark 11:25
And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins. ”

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